Scrolling through social media and blogs has the ability to make even the greatest, most accomplished, most patient, most crafty, most musical, most over-achieving moms feel inadequate. The reason is quite simple: the internet rarely tells the whole truth.
We all post photos about our greatest accomplishments, not our deepest failures.
Do you want to see the pile of laundry on my bathroom floor OR my daughter reading to her little brother? Do you want to see how the puppy chewed up yet another toy all over the living room floor OR the craft the kids did? Do you want to see my child throwing a fit on the floor OR my baby smiling beautifully for the camera? The answers to these questions is obvious.
No one wants to see the hard stuff.
It might be a nice change of pace to see a post or read something about someone who has embraced the fact that life is messy and chaotic, but these are few and far between. More often than not, we see happy smiling children eating homemade treats while doing crafts in a beautifully decorated home. Forget the fact that in the other room is a dog chewing up a dirty diaper (Not that I know anything about that…).
As a mother, it is difficult not to compare yourself to other women who seem to have it all together. But I will tell you the truth: even the most perfect mom in the world has her bad days.
I openly admit to having a Super Mom Complex.
I pin so many amazing ideas on Pinterest, but will never have enough time in my life to do them all. I love to sew and craft, but leave projects unfinished. I menu plan and then end up eating out for dinner. I do crafts with my kids and get frustrated when they make a mess. I homeschool and some days I want to give up. I make green smoothies and then eat candy bars. I snuggle my kiddos and then tell them to go into the other room to give me a few minutes of peace. I succeed and I fail, but I always get back up again.
This is what parenting is all about.
“What I do you cannot do; but what you do, I cannot do.
The needs are great, and none of us, including me, ever do great things.
But we can all do small things, with great love,
and together we can do something wonderful.”
It isn’t about what you do, it is about how you do it. Stop comparing yourself to other moms. We all have different gifts and abilities. No two moms are the same. No two people love the same or need love in the same ways. Work with what you have. Embrace it.
Be the best parent and person you can be
and forget about what everyone else is doing.
Of course, you won’t be able to do this every day and some days you will feel completely inadequate once again. But do not be discouraged. We all have days like this. This is normal. The most important thing a parent can do, above anything else, is to love their children and to teach them that God loves them more than they can even imagine.
Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God;
and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God.
He who does not love does not know God, for God is love.
In this the love of God was manifested toward us,
that God has sent His only begotten Son into the world,
that we might live through Him.
In this is love, not that we loved God,
but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins.
Beloved, if God so loved us,
we also ought to love one another.
1 John 4:7-11 (NKJV)